Whether it is people who have achieved huge success & continue to do so, or people who have reached a stage of having accomplished a lot and now wondering what's next or even people who are stuck in a less than desirable situation - all have something in common. They all have the same 3 factors operating in their mind. The difference is that these factors operate differently in each of the above group.
1) How you look at the world?
How you look at the world and what meaning you attribute to what you see is one of the first factors that affect your life. You may see an open landscape and say that it is empty and hence has nothing to offer. Or You may say that it has so much space that you can do anything in it.
Take a moment to make a picture in your mind about your life the way it is. What do you see in it? How colorful is it? How sharp is it? How large is the picture of your life? What meanings you attribute to what you see? Are these meanings empowering you or limiting you?
2) What is the most pervasive emotion in your life?
Emotions are usually quite transient and you would tend to experience a multitude of them within the span of a minute. And yet, there would be a certain theme of emotions that you carry most of the time.
Emotions are like water. The emotions we label as positive emotions are like crystal clear water and the emotions labelled as negative are like water that has dirt, dust and other objects that make the water unclear.
Are you generally happy, satisfied, fulfilled, joyous, grateful?
If not, then ask yourself what happens when you look into water that is dirty? You see dirt all over.
Now take a moment to make a (1 or more) picture of what gives you happiness, joy, satisfaction, fulfillment, gratitude. Take what you see in these pictures and add it into the picture of your life you made in step 1 and notice what happens to your life in this given moment.
3) How do you set goals about what you want?
How do you order food at a restaurant? Most order food based on what they see in the menu, isn't it? And that is exactly how many people set goals. They believe there is a menu dished out for them and they can order only from the menu they were presented with.
Some of the most successful people I have met, they don't order food at a restaurant based on the menu. They know exactly what they want, they ask for it and they get it regardless of whether it was mentioned in the menu or not.
Ask yourself what you truly want. Not based on what you believe you can have, but based on what you really would like to have even if you believe it to be impossible.
Author - Anil D Dagia, NLP Trainer member of ANLP, UK, Foremost NLP Trainer in Mumbai & Pune (India).