• Meet Anil Dagia

    Meet Anil Dagia

    - ICF Credentialed Coach, PCC
    - Certified Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming
    - Trained in South Africa by Dr Terri Ann Laws
    - Trainer Member of ANLP CIC, UK
  • Unconventional, No Box Thinker

    Unconventional, No Box Thinker

    - Probably India's Most Innovative NLP Trainer
    - Creator & Master Trainer of Emotional Fitness GymTM
    - 1st NLP Trainer in India to offer NLP based training in Online mode
  • Trainer Who Does Not Use Powerpoint

    Trainer Who Does Not Use Powerpoint

    - Trained/coached over 10,000 people across 14 nationalities
    - Conducted Trainings in Dubai, South Africa & India
  • Highly Recommended

    Highly Recommended

    - Watch Video testimonials
    - More than 2000 skill endorsements on linkedin Read More
  • Interviewed by Times Of India

    Interviewed by Times Of India

    - Interview published on Front Page in Times of India - Pune Times dated 18-Oct-2013
    - India's most widely read English newspaper with an average issue readership of 76.5 lakh (7.65 million) !! Read More
  • Interviewed by Mid-Day in Sep-2013

    Interviewed by Mid-Day in Sep-2013

    - Interview published in Mid-Day dated 27-Sep-2013
    - The most popular daily for the Young Urban Mobile Professionals across India Read More
  • Interviewed for 2nd time by Mid-Day in Jul-2014

    Interviewed for 2nd time by Mid-Day in Jul-2014

    - 2nd Interview published in Mid-Day dated 10-Jul-2014
    - The most popular daily for the Young Urban Mobile Professionals across India Read More
  • Interviewed by MJ Shubhra of Radio One 94.3 FM in Nov-2013

    Interviewed by MJ Shubhra of Radio One 94.3 FM in Nov-2013

    - Interview aired on Raio One 94.3 FM on 27-Nov-2013
    - The most popular FM radio station across India Read More
  • Sample Client List

    Sample Client List

  • 1st ICF + NLP Dual Certification In One Training

    1st ICF + NLP Dual Certification In One Training

    - 1st NLP Training in India to be approved by ICF
    - Option of Distance Learning available through partnership
    - (disclaimers apply) Read More
  • Practical NLP that you can use in the Boardroom

    Practical NLP that you can use in the Boardroom

    - Probably the only NLP trainer in India who focuses on NLP that you can use
    - Does not focus on Therapy or Classroom Only type of learning Read More
  • Emotional Fitness Gym

    Emotional Fitness Gym

    - A unique model blending the fields of Neuroscience, Emotional Intelligence, NLP into a Fitness model Read More
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
  • 6
  • 7
  • 8
  • 9
  • 10
  • 11
  • 12

The Gift Of Parenting - Insights Of An NLP Trainer - Part 03

User Rating: 0 / 5

Star InactiveStar InactiveStar InactiveStar InactiveStar Inactive
 

Welcome to Part 03 of this series of articles on parenting and you can enrich your life with very small and simple steps that you can take based on the principle of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), brought to you by 5th Element, Pune. Click Part 01 or Part 02 to read our previous parts.

This week we continue on the theme of how the child's perception of the world is totally different from that of an adults.

As adults, we have been habituated into thoughts, beliefs and actions largely based on our individual learning, experiences and social interactions. This leads us to have ways of thinking which are not a natural part of a child's thoughts.

nlp-pune-5th-element-anil-dagia-parenting-03-01For example, as adults we would tend to draw comparisons of how something is better, worse, right, wrong. These comparisons presuppose a frame of reference against which the comparison is being drawn.

But for a young child - there IS no frame of reference (to start with). Hence how will they  understand our comparison - let alone agree or comply with our comparison?

As adults we have notions about "must do", "should do", "have to" - all necessities/desires nlp-pune-5th-element-anil-dagia-parenting-03-02arising from societal interactions and protocols. But for a child - they don't know about society and its protocols. How can they understand why something "must be done"?

And then comes the dreaded question - "But why?". All parents have faced this endless barrage of "But Why"? questions on innumerable occasions often ending in exasperation or maybe even aggression on the part of the parent.

If faced with such situations, always remember your answer to the following questions-
- Between the child and the parent, who is the adult?
- Between the adult and the child, who is supposed to be mature and responsible?


Exercise

Bring out your "Gift of Parenting" diary and write down your list of the following:
a) All the situations in which you have your understanding of should, shouldn't, must, must not, have to, need to

b) All the situations in which you have your understanding of can/can't, possible/not possible etc.

c) What are the situations / circumstances where you have your understanding of distinctions of right v/s wrong, good v/s bad etc.,

d) What are the situations / circumstances where you have your understanding of always, never, all, none etc.,

Now examine each of these and write down the basis of having formed these understandings. Ask yourself whether each of these is grounded in facts that are current and to date? Have some of these become obsolete and hence need to be re-examined? Would you still continue to hold on to the same understanding after this re-examination?

Now ask yourself if your child has the self-experience which could have generated the basis for forming these same understandings as you have? What can you do to generate an experience (a pleasant one) for your child where the child can start forming their own experiential learning?
nlp-pune-5th-element-anil-dagia-parenting-03-03Innocence of childhood is the mirror of introspection for the parent. To me, parenting is about the growth of the parent as a human being and where the child is the real parent teaching us the most important lessons of our lives - about ourselves. Truly a Gift.

continued.... (Click Here for Part 04)

 

 

Author - Anil D Dagia, NLP Trainer member of ANLP, UK, Foremost NLP Trainer in Mumbai & Pune (India).

© Copyright 5th Element 2011, Pune

 

 

Share this post

Submit to DeliciousSubmit to DiggSubmit to FacebookSubmit to Google PlusSubmit to StumbleuponSubmit to TechnoratiSubmit to TwitterSubmit to LinkedIn
blog comments powered by Disqus